Why women ditch their husbands
Thursday, October 15, 2009 | Karen Howes It hit me tonight at supper.
I've been noticing a pattern among the men I know-- including close family members-- whose wives have left them: in all cases, the wives had worked; they had seemed to become dissatisfied or fed up with being married, and I couldn't understand why.
Then I realized something else: these women not only worked, but had come to make more money than their husbands.
Despite forty years of hippie-women's-lib-ism, in which we were taught to reject everything we naturally are as worthless and wrong and instead embrace the work rat race and masculine vices, women apparently still believe that men should bring home the bacon... or at least the majority of it.
Because in general it seems that when men either make less money than their wives or are "househusbands", their wives end up losing respect for them and kicking them to the curb.
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"Because in general it seems that when men either make less money than their wives or are "househusbands", their wives end up losing respect for them and kicking them to the curb." .....True, but also an awful lot of women never wanted to be "equal" to men, they wanted to be better then men.
Now that the liberals have all but completely destroyed our economy, and more men then women have lost their jobs and are forced to stay at home, their wives have no intentions of struggling to help hold the family together, like their husbands did when they were working. They now look upon their husbands as a burden and since they are now holding and controlling the "purse" strings, they feel taht they can call the shots and throw the "bum" out.
For those women who do get married, the vow of "for better or worse", "in sickness and in health" no longer hold any meaning. I have known too many women who have either walked out or thrown their husbands out if he had the misfortune of becoming disabled or chronically ill. I guess the only thing they ever really loved was the money that he brought in.
This whole thing about women divorcing the men they wanted to stay home is just one more of the self-contradictory 'values' of the form of neurosis called feminism. Other self contradictory values are "we women can do everything men can do, so lower the physical standards of the police/firefighters/military so we can join!" and "we women can raise children on our own, so give us welfare payments!"
However, self-contradictory feminism is only part of the equation in why so many relationships fail. One very big reason is the fact that people do not need each other due to economic prosperity and technological advancement (the pill for example). I am not advocating a return to the 19th century, but those factors combine to make love/family a value lost on most people these days.
I think it's also because women who make more money realize that they don't need to take crap from their hubbys anymore. There is also a lot of truth in what Rev Gregori said, people just don't take their marriage vows seriously anymore, it's all just half-assed and they don't think that marriage is a commitment.
It's no surprise then that the western world is heading down the crapper, if we cannot even honor a promise made to just one person, how can we do our part in the whole civilization.
I guess my deep secret plan to quit my job and get my wife to go back to work and send the kids to school so I can blog fulltime is going to come back and bite me, hard.
Damn. Nothing ever works out for me.
Sniff. Sniff.
Then again, being married and poor is better than being divorced and alone and demoralized and poor.
mmm. seems to be a connection here somewheres with your post on the pill, karen. can't quite put my finger on it though.
I will only speak for myself in this matter - I quit my job at a time when making as much as my husband plus the best benefits on the planet - we decided it was more important for one parent to be home with our two children and be able to follow my husband in his job travels - it paid off quite nicely - our two are wonderful! Both are musicians with good moral standards and make better than good grades. I'm thinking about going back to school, but may even get a part time job - to us it is more beneficial to have a sound family life. Of course, the Lord has played the largest part - PRAISE BE TO HIM!
hmmmmmmmmmm..complex issue girly!..Have a super weekend my friend!!:)
I have to admit I think it is very sad how women tend to be the "boss" in the family instead of the man. God did not intend for women to be the masculine one in the family. We were intended to be the caretakers of the home and that's just fine with me. I would LOVE to be a stay-at-home mom, but that is just not going to happen.
However, for some women that decide to divorce their husbands is because they are doing everything! They work full-time and then have to come home and do more work, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids and even MOW the lawn! Any woman would get fed up and realize why stay with a louse who refuses to work or pull his own weight around the house. The woman comes to realize that she really doesn't need him and is better off without him.
It is time for men to be men and quit allowing women to bully them. I guess I am old-fashioned.
Bishop Gregori, I think that it's case of women's lib causing women to pick up vices that have traditionally been male. My aunt is a relationship/marriage counselor, and she's noticed that more and more women don't even want custody of the kids-- they're willing to let the dad have all or most of it. This seems to be the case with a family member whose wife decided that she didn't want to be married anymore. It's like she wants to be 18 again, even though she's my age. I think she feels that she "missed out."
To me, a good mother would want as much custody of her children as she could possibly get.
Zot, you bring up two excellent points-- the self-contradictory "feminism" and the state of society that makes it easy to walk away from marriage and family.
MK, absolutely. I really think the marriage vows should be changed from "till death do us part" to "till I get tired of you, want to be an adolescent again, and/or find someone more exciting."
"Till death do us part" and "what God has joined together, let no man put asunder" (Jesus' own words, btw) have become a mockery.
Dr. Dave, sorry to burst your bubble. :-)
I dated a guy who turned out to be a lazy lout-- but I was smart enough to dump him as soon as it became apparent that if we married, I'd be supporting him. No way.
Griper, there is-- I think it's about men being emasculated, and women who sometimes are drawn to that.
Nancz, it's definitely a good thing if a parent-- preferably the mom, for the reasons cited in the article-- can stay home when kids are young.
Angel, yes it is a complex issue, and I know there's more to it than what I've said here. Have a good weekend too!
Leticia, I'm "old-fashioned" too, if being so means thinking that men should act like men and women should act like women!
o.t. - I'm out spreading good cheer this morning!
Thought everyone could use a good laugh this morning!
ROFL-- thanks, Nancz.